Principle · MindRecognize that wanting what you don't have is an inherently human trait: single people want to be married, married people want to be single, people with no kids want kids, people with kids want a night off. Everyone has already accomplished things they once said would make them happy, yet dissatisfaction persists — so the source of dissatisfaction is your own wanting, not your circumstances. 'I am the problem.'
Alex Hormozi · It took me 37 years to realize what I'll tell you in 18 minutes.
Principle · MindHormozi argues that many people live mediocre lives because they play games designed by others, where even winning would yield a prize they don't actually want.
Alex Hormozi · a video to watch if you're ambitious and in your 20s or 30s
Principle · MindHormozi frames life through game design: everyone is playing multiple games at once (business, fitness, relationships), and the games you choose determine the prizes you get.
Alex Hormozi · a video to watch if you're ambitious and in your 20s or 30s
Principle · MindHormozi describes one of the most tragic outcomes in life: working hard, sacrificing a lot, reaching the top of the podium, and realizing the trophy is not what you wanted to win.
Alex Hormozi · a video to watch if you're ambitious and in your 20s or 30s
Principle · MindHormozi distinguishes global from local: you can win a game locally but globally it might lose your life; don't let a local thing come at the cost of a global thing.
Alex Hormozi · a video to watch if you're ambitious and in your 20s or 30s
Principle · MindHormozi argues that playing dominant games allows you to win better prizes, and that for any game you're playing (e.g., career), you should understand who the person is who determines who wins.
Alex Hormozi · a video to watch if you're ambitious and in your 20s or 30s
Recommendation · MindRyo Lu recommends picking one place you care about, changing one small thing, and trying it. If there's an opportunity, show your changed version to another person. You don't need to change everything at once, and you don't need to prove you are better than the machine.
AI Engineer · When We Can Do Anything, Do We Still Know What We Want? — Ryo Lu, ex-Cursor | AI Engineer Shanghai
Recommendation · MindIf you're building tools, Ryo Lu suggests starting from three small points: make important assumptions visible, make each modification small enough to feel safe, and make handed-off work retrievable when needed.
AI Engineer · When We Can Do Anything, Do We Still Know What We Want? — Ryo Lu, ex-Cursor | AI Engineer Shanghai
Recommendation · MindWhen you see a very complete answer, first give yourself time to ask which decision in it you haven't thought about yourself — and if there's a chance, show it to another person.
AI Engineer · When We Can Do Anything, Do We Still Know What We Want? — Ryo Lu, ex-Cursor | AI Engineer Shanghai
Recommendation · MindThe creator advises not to over-persuade: you need friction to allow people into your dating life, your company, and your friend circle. Friction doesn't have to be manufactured — it can simply be asking people what they're about without tipping your hand. Don't oversell by saying 'here's what we're doing, it's going to be amazing, you should be part of it.' Instead, let people show up, show you their track record, and tell you what they're about. Without friction, people can get really excited just because you seem like you've got a mission and they feel like they could use one.
None — direct advice from the creator.
Charisma on Command · I’m 39. Here’s What I Wish I Knew at 30
Recommendation · MindThe creator recommends practicing saying the phrases 'I love you, no' or 'No, and I love you' out loud — in relationships, business, anything. When he had to fire someone after many violations, he started the call with 'I love you. This is so hard.' and it flowed much easier. If you have to separate or draw a boundary with someone and you feel you must first cut off your love for them, you'll stay in bad relationships and schemes of relationships for an incredibly long time.
None — direct advice backed by the creator's own example.
Charisma on Command · I’m 39. Here’s What I Wish I Knew at 30
Recommendation · MindThe creator recommends spending time with your grandma (or grandparent) while her personal insight into her life is still available — her blessings are always available, but her personal insight is not. He advises getting the life stories of your relatives (mom, dad, grandma) and asking about their upbringing: first Christmas, what they remember, what Little League was like, what they remember of you. He did this exercise with his mother and father and learned valuable things about them, himself, and the 'soup' he grew up in.
None — a direct recommendation from the creator.
Charisma on Command · I’m 39. Here’s What I Wish I Knew at 30
Recommendation · MindThe creator advises using the phrase 'It just doesn't feel right for me' instead of justifying your gut feeling with logic. If you need to justify your gut feeling with logic, you're operating at roughly a tenth of the speed of your innate intelligence (he explicitly flags the number as an arbitrary figure). Trust your gut feeling — don't fall into the trap of needing to justify it, whether with a salesperson or anyone. Don't treat your gut as being about objective reality — your gut tells you about subjective reality ('this doesn't sit right for me'), not that someone is an evil person. Needing an objective verdict on people before doing business slowed him down and made the process heavier; when he stopped needing to justify gut feelings, things moved more smoothly and he avoided the gut
The 'tenth of the speed' figure is explicitly arbitrary per the speaker; the rest is his personal experience and heuristic.
Charisma on Command · I’m 39. Here’s What I Wish I Knew at 30
Recommendation · MindDr. Brooks advises that more than two drinks a week is probably not a good idea for most people, and shares that he is a zero-drink non-drinker because it is the right cadence for his life. He wishes he could use alcohol responsibly but acknowledges he cannot, so he does not use it at all.
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Andrew Huberman · The Art of True Happiness | Dr. Arthur Brooks
Recommendation · MindBrooks recommends that anyone at a given developmental stage look at people who have migrated the path they're on but are ahead of them, to get some useful information. He notes that almost every religious tradition has pilgrimages, which are metaphorical for what we're actually trying to do with our lives — which is why they're deeply mystical and spiritual experiences. He recommends that everybody go on a 500-mile walk across northern Spain from the French border to Santiago de Compostela.
Andrew Huberman · The Art of True Happiness | Dr. Arthur Brooks
Recommendation · MindBrooks recommends eating meals with other people without devices, saying the neuropeptides elicited by shared device-free meals can also change your relationship to technology.
Andrew Huberman · The Art of True Happiness | Dr. Arthur Brooks
Recommendation · MindHuberman recommends spending time in your own head, moving or not, resisting the temptation to get pulled out into the world, and getting good at sitting with emotions and thoughts without distraction. He finds himself much calmer after extended time alone, after an initial stage of mind fluttering, and sees real value in solo treks and getting past the need to constantly engage with the world.
largely anecdotal; varies by individual
Andrew Huberman · Neuroscience of Emotions & Tools for Improving Emotion Regulation | Dr. Ralph Adolphs
Recommendation · MindAt the beginning of every lab meeting, Adolphs has everyone put devices down for three to five minutes of meditative silence to clear buzzing minds and become more receptive to what comes next. He suggests quieting a mind buzzing with emails and notifications before engaging with the next task, and doing a daily moment of silence or recalibration from the busy world, not just before meetings.
Andrew Huberman · Neuroscience of Emotions & Tools for Improving Emotion Regulation | Dr. Ralph Adolphs
Recommendation · MindRubin describes his approach to feedback on creative work: it's more helpful to wait until you're in a setting where you can engage with the work in that moment rather than telling the person your thoughts separately; when producing someone's record he wouldn't rely on language to give feedback — he would make a suggestion of something actionable, try it, and then have more data.
creator's stated method
Andrew Huberman · Essentials: How to Access Your Creativity | Rick Rubin
Recommendation · MindDr. Elissa Epel recommends using the mental frame 'be the lion instead of the gazelle' to shift into a challenge response during stress — reminding oneself to approach the stressor as the predator rather than the prey.
Andrew Huberman · Essentials: Manage Stress & Build Resilience | Dr. Elissa Epel
